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be nothing before something

Take a step back, look around and what you will generally find painstakingly obvious is that we are shrouded in the world's countless standards. Standards that so called sets people, brand, items, animals, etc. apart from one another. You will always find that virtually anywhere in any conversation that someone is caring, loving, not sensitive enough to care, not smart enough to excel, too quiet to ever make new friends, too prudent to take risks, and soon you'll find that the list of standards, comparable and dichotomies goes on like an endlessly playing broken recorder.

These standards have become so commonly mentioned and brought up that it has become apart of our lifestyle, our very beliefs in our minds. The office is a very good place that demonstrates this. There will always be one "star" performer that everyone wants to be or look up to. I cannot deny that having someone to look up to and admire can be motivating but doesn't it give way to a proliferation of insecurities?

Before you know it, you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to another, constantly worried about what others think about you based on the standards and dichotomies set by the social standings deemed the gospel truth. But take a minute or two to ponder this - no really knows the truth, no one really holds the book of standards and therefore, wouldn't it mean that everyone else among us is just going on about their lives day by day trying to hide their insecurities, the truth?

Isn't it burgeoning how society imposes standards on us?

Would you then rather be something or nothing? By being nothing I don't mean you become an invalid but by being you - no expectations, not compared to or against, no hiding of flaws, not trying to live up to others' expectations but your own.

Seldom observed is that our weaknesses may well have been our strengths all these while but we have been clouded in our relentless effort to meet the "standards". By being you, you start by being nothing - stripped of all insecurities like fear, embarrassment, jealousy, and what you will find is you (i.e. the real you). Without all the insecurities clouding your eyes staring at yourself, you find that you can clearly find where your weaknesses are begin taking the positive step to better yourself instead of masquerading your weakness behind someone you are not.

One cannot be something until one becomes nothing........

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