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joyous moment of being a papi

Slightly under a month ago, a friend of mine finally became a dad. Yups! He's now officially a papi! A title limited to only those who qualify - that is you have to be married first. Although under limited circumstances some people become fathers even before marriage but that's not what I want to write about.

He had a slightly different experience when it came to his kid. The birth of his little boy was through an induced child birth because he was going overdue if he didn't pop out then. I was curious and I had a good conversation with him trying to find out what he felt throughout the process of the birth of is little boy, D (for anonymity reasons).

It was almost 11 hours before little D took his first breath in this world. That would mean his mom had to endure slightly below 11 hours worth of labour pain whilst giving birth to him. Although this does not translate to 11 hours worth of trying to push the baby out. In that 11 hours, a lot of things happen.

I can't remember the entire process in detail, but I kinda remember the gist of the process. The induced child birth kick starts the entire process, and I think she will start to feel the contractions. Then there will be some form of pain from the contractions that start. Unfortunately, it's a painful waiting game for the mother since she has to wait for the right timing for the baby to come out in terms of making sure the opening is large enough for the baby to given birth to safely.

Waiting sounds simple from a third person's view but for the mother its painful and the waiting can sometimes even drive you up the wall. When the timing is right, that's when the nurses and the doctor will have to move quick to deliver the baby safely.

At the end of it, baby D was given birth to safely and it was great relief for my friend to see both his wife and child are safe. After all, there have been cases of death during child birth and not all child birth go smoothly 100% of the time.

It's amazing when you sit back and think about it, looking at a 9 month process that seems all worth it when you look at the baby take his first breath in this world. You'd be thinking why not just have the kid pop out in under a month or something? But from what i understand that 9 months isn't just about hanging around waiting for a life form to pop out from you. It's more than that. That 9 months is almost like God's way of letting you know, you need that 9 months to prepare yourself emotionally and physically because when you give birth to a child, it's not merely a by-product of sex. It's almost like a lifetime's responsibility - seeing to the baby's needs, education, food, a home, etc....... Not so simple anymore ya?

But before you let all the fear of an additional commitment smack you directly in the face, you should first stop and take the opportunity to cuddle the little baby because that feeling you get in your heart.... that's what I'd call the "joyous moment of being a papi...."

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