Only days ago, I wrote something about arguments. Ironically two days ago, I had to go through the very unwilling feeling of being told I was wrong at work. Wrong over something I was actually correct from the start. Like any uncommon situations, that conclusion was derived with a load of information assymetry.
It is not uncommon that we all sometimes say things that could be detrimental to ourselves and to those around us due to the lack of information (i.e. you would have said something else had you known more about the situation). That's probably why so many fights and quarrels break out every now and then.
I had to take a step back and ask myself, "am I really wrong?". I looked, re-looked and re-looked again at the situation to really do an assessment. Contrary to trying to see if I was correct, I earnestly wanted to know if I was wrong. I had to know in all possibilities that I was wrong. I had to make sure I was wrong for the right reasons and that it wasn't a careless mistake on my part.
Turns out, I wasn't wrong and I was right. Fine - I was satisfied.
All that left was a pinch of soreness. Okay................................... no, it wasn't a pinch, it was more of a punch of soreness (truth be told).
No apology whatsoever was offered. Probably because he felt he wasn't oblige to offer an apology to me. It was like a crime left unsolved even though the criminal has been identified. It was injustice.
Funny how we are nurtured to think that justice leaves no stones unturned, only to find that that's exactly what justice doesn't do - all stones are left unturned.
Has the human culture shifted to such inhumane beliefs that all that matters is one's ego and pride? Apologies are simply hard to come by these days........ I can only ponder what the future holds for humanity - a world where everyone wants to be right. It can only be bleek.......
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