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Yesterday evening, while I was at work I suddenly found myself in a situation I have never really found myself to be in before. I surprisingly found myself dealing with a situation where one of my juniors was sitting at her cubicle in a secluded corner sobbing herself to oblivion.

I had to use one word to describe what I felt at that point in time, it would be.............................. perplexed. I found myself trying to figure out what to do with her and what to say. At that point in time, I had two major concerns:

1. Making sure I used the correct words when I spoke to her at that point in time to make sure she doesn't go from tear dropping to a full blown sob; and

2. Making sure I could motivate her and not make her full more horrible than she already was feeling.

With the lack of new joiners these days coupled with the fact that it is very much an employee's market these days in terms of job hunting and job availability, if she decides to leave because of what I tell her, I may well find myself explaining myself to my boss as to why she decides to leave the firm.

My point in respect of this post is really about what happened to her and what caused her to break down and cry. Also, highlighting the fact that stress management is important in any part of one's life. Because personally, I think this is a good reminder to all of us that none of us and I mean absolutely none of us are immune or invulnerable to stress. For one simple reason - we are only humans. Flesh and blood built in with emotions and the ability for independent thought.

Like any other problem, before one can fix it, one had to ascertain the cause of the problem first. So I had to ask her what was causing to have this breakdown in office in the middle of the work day.

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  1. AnonymousJuly 2, 2011 at 11:21 PM

    I am quite interested in the outcome of your talk to the junior. What happened next?

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