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The better of side of life's losses....

Most of us, if not all of us are guilty for chasing our own goals without realising the other "sideline" successes that should be achieved. We are very much obsessed about being successful, which is generally measured by what car you drive, your position at work, sales targets, size of your house.... and the list goes on!

Aren't we all so obsessed about achieving such materialistic goals and milestones?

There are some out there, however who have been blessed with the gift of losing everything. Before you start accusing me of being crazy, let me explain - for many of us owning a big house, many sports cars, thirty thousand dollar home theater system, designer interior decor, expensive food, expensive watches...........etc

Then you stop, think and realise, you have a big house but you are hardly around to enjoy it, a thirty thousand dollar home theater system that is probably only switched on twice a year, expensive watches that simply tell you you are running late and time slipping running away from you.

I've got this hobby of reading inspiritional stories and try to learn something from them. There's this one that taught me about CYA. For most of us in the working world CYA means Cover Your Arse! But I am not writing about that, and I am talking about a new and difference CYA - Change Your Attitude. Focusing too much on life's goals, and achievements more often than not leads you to a road to no where. For most of us, we only learn t change our attitude when we are led to the point of desperation - losing your job, family problems....and so on. But do we really need to wait till we are at that very point of desperation? Sounds painful and sad to me, if you ask me.

Here are some ways to CYA and I quote from a recent inspirational story I read, by John Chappelear:

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1. Start each day with an awareness that you are here for a purpose other than to satisfy demands to add stuff to your life. I do this with a few morning minutes of meditation and prayer. Other people read a book or take a walk. After a while, you'll find your own path to peace and self-awareness.

2. Make serving others a primary focus. Help someone in your office be more successful. Hold the door for someone. Start a mentoring program, be a big brother or sister, or call a local volunteering program.

3. Slow down. I was always so busy pushing for the next big break that sometimes I ran right past it. So take a few minutes to take a deep breath, step back, and enjoy life a bit. You'll be surprised how many opportunities personally and professionally just show up.

4. Start now. You don't have to remake your whole life overnight. Small changes when practiced consistently will create dramatic results. Remember, you're choosing to act--before a "gift of desperation" is forced on you. Keep at it and soon you will look back and be amazed how far you've come, and so will your coworkers and loved ones. And while I may believe in deathbed conversions, acting ahead of time is a whole lot more satisfying.

There's nothing magical about these actions. The results, however, from even small consistent actions can be phenomenal, because not only will you feel better about yourself, but often your professional life will take off, too.

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Every now and then, we need to just stop what we are doing, stop trying to kill ourselves, stop trying to reach some imaginery mountain peak which most of us never reach because we keep making it higher for ourselves.

I am pretty sure that most of us want to make it big some day, get rich, live comfortably and not having to worry about some home instalment, car instalment or kids' education. But if we don't refocus our mind and keep a fresh perspective of things, that mountain peak destination of ours will just get further, further, further, further, further.....................

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